This is a continuation of an interview done originally by audio. That audio is lost, so I am responding in text. This is question 9:
It is clear in your writing that you go to great lengths to develop masculine men and feminine women, yet you go to great pains to make your masculine men not macho, and your feminine women not submissive or needy in the least, while remaining very feminine. What draws you to explore these issues of masculinity and femininity?
I suppose there are two aspects of this question. What draws me to explore these issues and how did this get reflected in the presentation of men and women?
The ‘draw’ is easy enough. In my own life I felt that there were a missing components of ‘masculinity’ in my own life, like I was meant for something quite different- as a man- but for one reason or another I was not acting like a full man. If there is a ‘masculine ideal’ I wasn’t measuring up. There seemed to be others who felt the same way, even if their conclusions were different. The extraordinary success of Elridge’s “Wild at Heart” I think illustrates this. I don’t think that only men feel this disconnect, either.
At any rate, it seemed to me as I tried to find a way to resolve this issue that the very structure of our lives de-masculinizes and de-feminizes us. Read the rest of this entry »